if you want to ask a bisexual or asexual person about their sexual history to verify that they’re queer, but you don’t want them to take it the wrong way, try this useful communication technique:
give them twenty dollars and go away.
Please make me anonymous- my daughter has not come out yet.
My daughter told me she was asexual. And then she had to explain what that meant because I was ignorant of any other types of sexually beyond hetero and homo. She has opened my eyes to a whole new world and made me realize how hyper focused our society is on romance.
Sometimes she’ll comment on how cute a girl is or mention how guys in wet t-shirts look great. I never challenge her with, “but I thought you were asexual”. Why would I? I’m hetero and I notice cute girls. And I understand now that she can be attracted to people, find them beautiful but not be interested in sex. I guess to me we’re all humans trying to figure out who we are and if labels fit or not? And it’s easier if you are mainstream but not so much when most of society hasn’t even heard of your label.
I love her. She’s my daughter and she’s perfect the way she is. It makes sense to me to want to find what label describes you best. It’s also true that those labels can shift and change over time. What we need is for acceptance to go along with all of those labels and to give people the room to change those labels as they see fit.
Anonymous said: One time my mom asked about me getting a boyfriend and I said I didn't like boys and she froze, like she thought I was coming out as a lesbian, and then I added really quickly, "I don't like girls either" and then she was just sort of like "wat" and idk if this is really a submission but there you go
Well now I don’t know if it’s a submission either. :P